Quar is hell. But does it have to be? Not according to myInstagram那which we all know is a perfect facsimile of real life! Joking aside, though, most of us have spent A LOT of time at home for the better part of a year now, and it’s getting kind of old.
My friend, director常春藤jelisavac.那mentioned that she was interested in reading something about how to have a nice life in quarantine, so I decided to use that as a writing prompt. It’s really hard, all of this—and in different ways for different people—so while I don’t have all the answers, I can tell you what’s worked for me. I’m not going to claim I’m thriving in all of this, but I’m not, like, super miserable, which seems like a victory in these times, which are, as well you know, unprecedented.
这是a ??? - 部分系列的第一部分（我将在未来几周内用数字替换这些问号）。以下是一些想法来开始：
Make the mundane luxe
Sleep:Level up naptime or bedtime with headphones, a sleep mask, and a sound bath or binaural beats playlist. Sound baths are a Before Times luxury that actually translate perfectly to the at-home environment.
Take a better淋浴。当您没有时间豪华泡泡浴时，让淋浴更好。如果你在一起携带淋浴片，祝贺：你在生活中比我更好。如果你没有，请在淋浴地板上摇动几滴精油。当我的bodega有桉树时，我也想把它挂在淋浴间以清除空气。
For a while, I was in the former camp, until I realized that getting dressed in the morning tangibly improves my attitude, which in turn improves my day. Personally, I have two rules for getting dressed:
Read about glamorous women
作家Rachel Syme.has declared winter “Read A Book About A Glamorous and Eccentric Woman Season.” This is the best possible spin on winter I can imagine. Fortunately, Rachel has done extensive sharing and crowdsourcing of books that fit the bill, and you can find a thread of the books she and others recommendhere。In the meantime, here are some of my favorites:
Diane ArbusPatricia Bosworth.：Diane Arbus是一名标志性的摄影师，具有复杂和最终悲惨的生活。这本书是一个迷人的看着她和它。
我的灵魂回头经过Jessica B. Harris：关于学术和食品作家Jessica B. Harris作为James Baldwin最好的朋友的女朋友的一本书。我的主要（只有）对这本书的抱怨是哈里斯自己是一个迷人的女人，这回忆录着色了很多关于她周围的引人注目的人。很乐意阅读一本更多专注于她的感受和经验的书。
Shocking Life由Elsa Schiaparelli.：Elsa Schiaparelli是二十世纪上半年的领先时装设计师之一。她的主要竞争对手？Coco Chanel，我们都知道的是纳粹。（Look, to be fair, I read this book a few years ago and can’t remember whether Schiaparelli was also a Nazi but I’m pretty sure the answer is no or I would not be recommending this book. I do recall thinking she was a terrible mother which is also not a great trait BUT still better than being a Nazi.) Anyway Schiap was a fascinating woman who seems kind of insufferable but I LOVE insufferable dead people (see next book recommendation) so that’s a win for me.
Ninety-Nine Glimpses of Princess Margaret（有时叫Ma'am Darling.）克雷格·棕色：Could not care less about the Royals, except this one who was pretty much awful! Basically Margaret had terrible manners but you’d have terrible manners too if you got screwed over as often as she did (not the queen, couldn’t marry the dude she loved, etc.). She’s a lot more interesting than well behaved people, I have to say.
转到 - 或主机 - 虚拟事件实际上是好的
Attend live talks by creative people：One of the silver linings of the pandemic, for me, has been the ability to “attend”创造性的早晨events in other cities. While I’ve been bummed to miss the monthly in-person breakfast events in New York, it’s been great to drop in on events in Brisbane, Charlottesville, Calgary, Lexington, and Cologne, among others. And Creative MorningsFieldTripsare a great opportunity to learn a new skill in a one-off class. I’ve learned about brand strategy, designing my dream life, and watercolors, and on Thursday I’m learning about规划个人撤退日（something I’ve done in the past but would love to do even better).
持有虚拟成就沙龙：What’s anaccomplishment salon? Invented by Jen Dziura of看好，这是一个定期的事件，每个人都分享他们在一定时间内完成的伟大（甚至是好的）。亲自，您受到您可以适应空间/想要为茶点提供的人数的限制。但实际上，您可以邀请尽可能多的人，因为您的缩放帐户将允许。如果你最终有一个大群，只需将每个人都分成六个左右的突破室。每个人都可以简单地谈谈他们所做的内容，或者如果工作向其中一个人提供了一个。如果你给予邀请的交易时间的交易时间，那么知道他们需要在月底或季度开始分享的东西可以帮助他们在我们大多数人都处于动力的损失时激励。
Adult child powers: activate!
What did you like to do as a kid? Make a list. Which of those things still sound fun as an adult? OK, now do those. Here are some I like:
Make friendship bracelets.Remember those plastic lace bracelets we used to make as kids? We called them lanyards growing up but I knew some other people who called them boondoggles and you probably had some totally different name. Anyway you can totally have the绳索delivered and make matching bracelets for you and your BFF.
Roller skate.OK so this one involves a slightly larger outlay of capital and the faith that you won’t slam headfirst into the wall of your apartment and be eaten by your cat before anyone can find you (if you live alone, like I do). But also, once the weather gets warmer (or if you’re in Australia or similar), you can take this party on the road for a fun, outdoor, socially distanced activity.
画你的脸。我作为孩子的生活中的一个巨大惊喜之一是将我的Klutz将脸部绘画套件带入我们的楼下浴室，随机地浴室，像鼠标或老虎一样画画。我最近订购了一个face-painting kitand have found that this is still SUPER fun for me as an adult.
有疑问，涂上贴纸。Last year, I bought a Unicorns & Rainbows sticker pack for the girl I tutor. A few months ago, I went back to the store and bought the same set for myself. Since then, I’ve put at least one sticker at the top of my daily work to-do list to trick myself into thinking I’m doing something fun.
Read kids’ books.I somehow made it through childhood without anyone handing me a copy ofFrom the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler那an oversight that will astound me for the rest of my life as that book is so me as a child I cannot imagine how it wasn’t on my bookshelf. Anyway thanks to Jia Tolentino’sTrick Mirror（another must-read) I was reminded of this wrong and decided to rectify it. I absolutely loved this book. Next up: rereading some childhood favorites including故事女孩经过L.M. Montgomery.
Become internally fulfilled
Fucking sick of everyone around you:Judgment Detox经过Gabrielle Bernstein。Get happier by stop being angry at other people? In the words of Elle Woods, “It’s a completely brilliant plan!” Gabby takes you through a series of exercises and meditations designed to get to the root of WHY certain things, people, and situations set you off, so you can better understand and break your patterns of judgment and resentment.
争论现实：爱是什么经过Byron Katie。你有问题吗？Katie has a four-question framework that will help you realize you do not, in fact, have a problem, and are probably either feeling aggrieved about something you can’t change or projecting your own stories onto a situation (this, the nation where I live). She also hasan app called The Workwhere you type out the answers to the questions and turn your problem around.
想念你叫你狗屎的坚强爱的朋友：You Are a Badass詹真诚。我最近看到了一个互联网（不记得哪一个）叫Jen Sinkero（发音为SiN-Cheh-Ro）一个蛇油推销员，但我认为她在这里卖的狗屎是真正的真实。忽略这个的愚蠢标题;敏锐的方法采取乐趣，没有废话的方法来告诉你停止毁了自己的生活，用一堆随机但相关的轶事从她自己的生活中恢复过来。
Mentally time traveling because this day/week/month/year absolutely sucks:现在的力量通过Eckhart Tole.。This is the book I use to reprogram my brain every time I find myself spending too much time reliving the past or trying to predict (or let’s face it, manipulate) the future. I have a tattoo inspired by it, which probably means I have just revealed myself to be the type of person you don’t want to be taking advice from. But seriously, check this out—Tolle reads it himself and he sounds like Werner Herzog which I find very soothing.
需要某种自助狗屎，但想要假装你正在阅读文学：The Alchemist由Paulo Coelho.。To be fair, I didn’t actually like this book or get a lot of meaning out of it BUT I suspect that’s at least in part because it’s the same information you get in other spiritual texts but told as a fable. And if you listen to the audiobook version it’s read by Jeremy Irons, an actor with a story arc onLaw & Order: SVUwhere he played a famous psychiatrist who couldn’t remember if he had assaulted his daughter because the night of the possible incident was during his blackout-drunk days and also while trying to figure this out he was helping Benson & Stabler try to solve a different crime or something? Regardless, you may like this book!